tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28333398.post2542695595407734440..comments2023-03-24T00:53:13.504-05:00Comments on you gotta be kiddin!: Of Acorns and OaksUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28333398.post-67227264475431925052007-12-28T02:26:00.000-06:002007-12-28T02:26:00.000-06:00I have never wanted children and still don't, prec...I have never wanted children and still don't, precisely because I am one of those fragile people without the character to shape another life. I have the same temperament that my mom does, which is to become overwhelmed, oversensitive, and complaining. But this brings us to genes and behavior.<BR/><BR/>I just bought a book called, "The Biology of Belief" which used to be called, "Why We Believe What We Believe" and it is fascinating. I have no doubt, and I think evidence shows, that there is a genetic factor in our desires and temperaments, such as suicide and chronic depression running through family lines or separated twins who end up liking all of the same stuff, having the same behavioral traits, and marrying the same types of people. I think in many cases sexual identity can be influenced by hormonal issues and other drives beyond the conscious will. <BR/><BR/>I think there is valid evidence coming from biology-based behavior and morality. I think as a Christian, in order to retain free-will and responsibility as well as the transforming power of God, you don't want to base it biology. A part of me thinks this is good, another part of thinks it lacks understanding and compassion.<BR/><BR/>You have always been resiliant and not one to lay down. Perhaps competitive. I think your temperament and experience of life predisposes you to adopting certain beliefs just as my melancholy and frail temperament predisposes me to accept other arguments.<BR/><BR/>In my severest depression some showed compassion and understanding, others got angry and said to stop whining and just snap out of it. It was the frail ones showing compassion and the driven ones showing tougher compassion. Is this genetic? Can I ever be what I am not?<BR/><BR/>Existentialism at its best.Paul M. Harrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04880809369067743828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28333398.post-50287772211363863002007-10-03T16:21:00.000-05:002007-10-03T16:21:00.000-05:00You know my husband and I were just discussing thi...You know my husband and I were just discussing this last night... after being frustrated with our 11 year old with the fact that she tends to be "forgetful" or even "lazy" at times.. it frustrates us because it is our laziness that is reflected. Our lack of desire to sit down and do her homework with her.. she isn't failing us.. we are failing her. I cried thinking.. WHY!! why do i get frustrated with her, she is a child, and she is only doing what we allow her to do and get away with. <BR/><BR/>Lord HELP me... to be the Wife, Mother, Daughter, Sister, Friend, Coworker...etc .. that you have called me to be .. is my prayer!!! <BR/><BR/>Knowing the Apple doesn't fall far from the tree brings both a smile to my face and a tear to my eye.. because deep down I know that I am responsible for these beautiful children that the Lord has blessed us with and as I cry out to the Lord for his help, I know that is is my own actions that my children are seeing and demonstrating as well. <BR/><BR/>Jorge and I tend to think, we are just like our parents, but I don't even want to claim that.. we are a NEW creation in Christ, although our parents tried their hardest to raise us right, we are all flawed. I simply do not desire to make the same mistakes my parents did, and with the Lord's help .. I can only HOPE and PRAY that he will continue to do a work in me that i may pour it out on my children!Linda Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10407651680273454615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28333398.post-60373416780529685812007-10-01T15:26:00.000-05:002007-10-01T15:26:00.000-05:00Each day I am learning how to be a better parent. ...Each day I am learning how to be a better parent. The kind of love we feel for our children is the only thing I can equate to the love God has for us...even though I know that His love is even greater (hard for our small minds to fathom).<BR/><BR/>I am also an abuse survivor and I choose not to be a victim of these experiences. Sometimes it is a task to not allow past circumstances to define me as a Christian wife, mother and daughter. <BR/><BR/>Being a parent is powerful, wonderful and frightening. It is accompanied with the dichotomy that it is easy to glorfiy the Lord yet difficult during trying moments when faith falters.<BR/><BR/>Instead of criticizing my parents, I find it somewhat comforting that I have a chance to be better, do better and understand the difference in their efforts. My purpose in raising my child is different. <BR/><BR/>I appreciate the reminder. We need all the help we can get!Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01139175647869141470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28333398.post-33596731869376634642007-10-01T13:26:00.000-05:002007-10-01T13:26:00.000-05:00I have to say, I am proud yet scared in the fact t...I have to say, I am proud yet scared in the fact that now I am a parent. I have to say, that having the responsibility of shaping a life is perhaps the most trust worthy thing that God has entrusted to us. I have the responsibility to show my daughter what a real man is according to God's idea not society's idea. I also have the responsiblity to share the greatest gift that has ever been given to me and that is, a relationship with Jesus Christ, our risen and victorious King! Great post Pastor Dave!Pastor Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04113728690194577246noreply@blogger.com